Gay vs Straight Sex

"And yet you can have good sex with someone you don't like or respect.....or even remember"

-Samantha Jones, Sex and the City

Despite the obvious anatomical differences, are gay sex and straight sex really that much different? And is the approach and outlook towards sex that much different between the two communities?

I started thinking about this after a conversation I had with a close friend, in which he warned me against hooking up with a co worker. My friend is gay, and has hooked up with co workers on multiple occasions, so naturally, I called him out. His response is what sparked this entire debate. "We're gay, gay people can have meaningless sex like they can blink an eye" While some people might look at that as a sign of stereotypical homosexual promiscuity, I couldn't help but think that maybe gays have it right. What is sex, if not simply a physical act to satisfy a physical need? We have sex when we're horny, stressed, happy, the emotional sexual gamete is endless, but the bottom line is that sex satisfies.

Have straight people, in particular, straight women, taken the satisfaction out of sex by over infusing it with emotion? I'm hardly suggest a promiscuous free for all, but is there really all that much shame in "the walk of shame". Should women (or men) feel ashamed for fulfilling a physical need?

Can we not find power in the one night stand? Can we not walk down the streets in the early morning feeling fulfilled and satisfied? The majority of society would probably still disagree with me, and say that looking at sex as an act of satisfaction and not an act of love is just a move towards trouble, but what I think the bigger question is, why can't it be both?

So can straight people move towards the ways of the gays? Has a casual outlook towards sex become the new sophistication? And is the ability to separate the sex you have for love, from the sex you have for need, the new intellectual sexual revolution?